guy trouble

Funkie_Chikin_2 · 12-04-04, 01:29 PM

OK I am just a little bit retarded about his whole thing and I need some advice!

So here's the situation:

I like this guy....and I've liked him for a little over a year now. The only problem with this is that for some reason I CANNOT stop thinking about him! I told him that I liked him a while ago and he said "he didn't like any girl like that" so I pretty much know that he doesn't like me back. I've tried not liking him, I've tried avoiding him, I've tried not talking to him, and NOTHING works! I've decided that I need to stop liking this guy but I have no idea how?

Can anyone help me?

ShpGirl · 12-23-04, 10:43 AM

Look at other guys...

Funkie_Chikin_2 · 12-23-04, 02:25 PM

Umm...thanks for you're reply.
It would make total sence if I didn't have this one tiny problem that I forgot to mention...
I'm trying to "give up" guys completely...for my own personal reasons.
Any advice?

ShpGirl · 12-23-04, 10:00 PM

Otay so your saying you want to be not straight I don't get it? Not that I don't talk to people who aren't straight I was friends with a guy that was gay. I don't mind being friends with girls who are either just as long as they don't touch me or, try to kiss me I am otay in being there friend. But other then that if your thinking of being gay well then I can't help you there, I have never had that problem I have always been attracted to guy's! Otherwise I would try to help I thought you were meaning that, you used to date this guy and was in love with him wanted to forget about him but couldn't. Also thought you mean that, you didn't want to have feelings for him anymore but oh well...

Funkie_Chikin_2 · 12-23-04, 10:07 PM

WHOA WHOA WHOA!! I never said ANYTHING about being gay. When i said i was trying to "give up" guys....what i meant was that i'm trying not to be distracted by the though of guys anymore. I had a crush on this one guy right? And that's ALL i could think of and it really took a toll on me. I couldn't focus in school and at home. It was really hard. This is the reason that I am trying to distance myself from thoughts of guys. Don't get me wrong...i LOVE guys! hehe.... i'm just trying to get my priorities straight in my life right now. Guys shouldn't be #1 on my list....

ShpGirl · 12-23-04, 11:01 PM

Oh otay well now you make sense I just didn't get what you meant. Anyways, I guess if you want your priorities straight that, I still think that you should date doesn't mean that you can avoid guy's completely. There's always time for priorities and dating you just have to make time for each one. Plus if a guy asks you out and, you two become a couple you need to tell him you need to stick to your priorites and that but, you can still date doesn't mean you have to avoid guy's completely.

ShpGirl · 12-23-04, 11:05 PM

Also tell the guy you like him alot but, you want to stick to your priorities forgot to add that in.

Funkie_Chikin_2 · 12-24-04, 07:38 PM

Thanks for your advice.....I just have one more little problem that I'm hoping you can help me with... I've, once again, forgot to tell you part of the story. You can think I'm stupid and ignore the rest of this but I'd like to know what you think.....

I am a christian....as is my "friend". The reason I've been struggling with this whole guy thing is that I am afraid that it is interrupting my relationship with Christ. It seems as though Jesus should be the MOST important man in my life. With the guy that I like always dancing around in my head, it seems nearly impossible for me to be totally dependant on God and have that close personal relationship with him that I crave.....I just don't know what to do half of the time.

I'm sorry if I annoy you with all of my problems.....I'm so lost.

ShpGirl · 12-25-04, 08:50 PM

Well I can see where you are from, I am in your position in ways... I am mormon and, well guy's won't put up with me because, I have morals meaning I won't give in if you get what I mean don't mind making out but, I just flat out won't give in. For example I met this guy not too long ago which was last week on our third meaning we were supposed to meet, actually kiss for that matter he asked me if it was otay for him to kiss me, well he got into a wreck on Friday totold his truck like I have said in my post. At first I figured otay he is ignoring my cousin and I, because he feels embarassed about having no car. Well I found out today that he has got a new car but, I think it is a little weird how my cousin knows this already when she says that the guy has been avoiding her and me too. I have no idea what is going on there anyways, I would stick to you morals because, I have I don't care if some guy won't stick around because I wont' give it up. I think it is funny though that, guy's say it's hard to figure us out when we can't figure them out. Just remember to stick to your morals and, don't give it up because, of some jerk just stick to your morals and you can date too just make sure that the guy isn't a jerk.

DaR'lLk · 01-22-05, 07:54 PM

[color=purple] Hey my friends and i were just reading your message and we thought we could help some. We are Christians too and believe me we know what you are going through, at this very moment. We have come to discover that when you pray about it and give the whole thing to God... you need to just let go and let God. It is hard to just let it go, but if it is supposed to be than God will make it happen. Just give him control of it and watch him work his magic. You are not in this alone.... and its not the end of the world.... life will go on. May God smile down on you.

LilLoverWannaB · 12-16-06, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by ShpGirl

Otay so your saying you want to be not straight I don't get it? Not that I don't talk to people who aren't straight I was friends with a guy that was gay. I don't mind being friends with girls who are either just as long as they don't touch me or, try to kiss me I am otay in being there friend. But other then that if your thinking of being gay well then I can't help you there, I have never had that problem I have always been attracted to guy's! Otherwise I would try to help I thought you were meaning that, you used to date this guy and was in love with him wanted to forget about him but couldn't. Also thought you mean that, you didn't want to have feelings for him anymore but oh well...

[size="4"]Yea Just go for girls no prob in that... i mean I'M NOT but still its totally not a BAD thing...But c there is rules .. u HAVE to kiss the girl FAST or she'll leave you in the past * my friend is gay so i know this stuff![/SIZE]

phoenix.7360 · 12-21-06, 03:08 PM

Hi, I like this person, and i think they like me, but they already have a boyfriend, what should i do?

SMiiLE · 12-25-06, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by phoenix.7360

Hi, I like this person, and i think they like me, but they already have a boyfriend, what should i do?

HANDS OFF!
If someone is dating, they are unattainable.

caycepollard · 03-05-07, 06:12 PM

Just focus on yourself and what you have to offer, instead of looking at what you want in other people.

12-23-04, 02:25 PM	#3
Funkie_Chikin_2 New Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 4	Umm...thanks for you're reply. It would make total sence if I didn't have this one tiny problem that I forgot to mention... I'm trying to "give up" guys completely...for my own personal reasons. Any advice? Last edited by Funkie_Chikin_2 : 12-23-04 at 02:32 PM.

12-21-06, 03:08 PM	#12
phoenix.7360 New Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1	Trouble Hi, I like this person, and i think they like me, but they already have a boyfriend, what should i do?

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12-04-04, 01:29 PM	#1
Funkie_Chikin_2 New Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 4	guy trouble OK I am just a little bit retarded about his whole thing and I need some advice! So here's the situation: I like this guy....and I've liked him for a little over a year now. The only problem with this is that for some reason I CANNOT stop thinking about him! I told him that I liked him a while ago and he said "he didn't like any girl like that" so I pretty much know that he doesn't like me back. I've tried not liking him, I've tried avoiding him, I've tried not talking to him, and NOTHING works! I've decided that I need to stop liking this guy but I have no idea how? Can anyone help me?

12-23-04, 10:43 AM	#2
ShpGirl Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: I live in California Posts: 63	Look at other guys...

12-23-04, 10:00 PM	#4
ShpGirl Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: I live in California Posts: 63	Otay so your saying you want to be not straight I don't get it? Not that I don't talk to people who aren't straight I was friends with a guy that was gay. I don't mind being friends with girls who are either just as long as they don't touch me or, try to kiss me I am otay in being there friend. But other then that if your thinking of being gay well then I can't help you there, I have never had that problem I have always been attracted to guy's! Otherwise I would try to help I thought you were meaning that, you used to date this guy and was in love with him wanted to forget about him but couldn't. Also thought you mean that, you didn't want to have feelings for him anymore but oh well...

12-23-04, 10:07 PM	#5
Funkie_Chikin_2 New Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 4	WHOA WHOA WHOA!! I never said ANYTHING about being gay. When i said i was trying to "give up" guys....what i meant was that i'm trying not to be distracted by the though of guys anymore. I had a crush on this one guy right? And that's ALL i could think of and it really took a toll on me. I couldn't focus in school and at home. It was really hard. This is the reason that I am trying to distance myself from thoughts of guys. Don't get me wrong...i LOVE guys! hehe.... i'm just trying to get my priorities straight in my life right now. Guys shouldn't be #1 on my list....

12-23-04, 11:01 PM	#6
ShpGirl Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: I live in California Posts: 63	Oh otay well now you make sense I just didn't get what you meant. Anyways, I guess if you want your priorities straight that, I still think that you should date doesn't mean that you can avoid guy's completely. There's always time for priorities and dating you just have to make time for each one. Plus if a guy asks you out and, you two become a couple you need to tell him you need to stick to your priorites and that but, you can still date doesn't mean you have to avoid guy's completely.

12-23-04, 11:05 PM	#7
ShpGirl Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: I live in California Posts: 63	Also tell the guy you like him alot but, you want to stick to your priorities forgot to add that in.

12-24-04, 07:38 PM	#8
Funkie_Chikin_2 New Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 4	Thanks for your advice.....I just have one more little problem that I'm hoping you can help me with... I've, once again, forgot to tell you part of the story. You can think I'm stupid and ignore the rest of this but I'd like to know what you think..... I am a christian....as is my "friend". The reason I've been struggling with this whole guy thing is that I am afraid that it is interrupting my relationship with Christ. It seems as though Jesus should be the MOST important man in my life. With the guy that I like always dancing around in my head, it seems nearly impossible for me to be totally dependant on God and have that close personal relationship with him that I crave.....I just don't know what to do half of the time. I'm sorry if I annoy you with all of my problems.....I'm so lost.

12-25-04, 08:50 PM	#9
ShpGirl Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: I live in California Posts: 63	Well I can see where you are from, I am in your position in ways... I am mormon and, well guy's won't put up with me because, I have morals meaning I won't give in if you get what I mean don't mind making out but, I just flat out won't give in. For example I met this guy not too long ago which was last week on our third meaning we were supposed to meet, actually kiss for that matter he asked me if it was otay for him to kiss me, well he got into a wreck on Friday totold his truck like I have said in my post. At first I figured otay he is ignoring my cousin and I, because he feels embarassed about having no car. Well I found out today that he has got a new car but, I think it is a little weird how my cousin knows this already when she says that the guy has been avoiding her and me too. I have no idea what is going on there anyways, I would stick to you morals because, I have I don't care if some guy won't stick around because I wont' give it up. I think it is funny though that, guy's say it's hard to figure us out when we can't figure them out. Just remember to stick to your morals and, don't give it up because, of some jerk just stick to your morals and you can date too just make sure that the guy isn't a jerk.

01-22-05, 07:54 PM	#10
DaR'lLk New Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: NoWhere's Iowa Posts: 1	[color=purple] Hey my friends and i were just reading your message and we thought we could help some. We are Christians too and believe me we know what you are going through, at this very moment. We have come to discover that when you pray about it and give the whole thing to God... you need to just let go and let God. It is hard to just let it go, but if it is supposed to be than God will make it happen. Just give him control of it and watch him work his magic. You are not in this alone.... and its not the end of the world.... life will go on. May God smile down on you.

03-05-07, 06:12 PM	#14
caycepollard Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Dryden, NY Posts: 22	Just focus on yourself and what you have to offer, instead of looking at what you want in other people.